1. If you provide choices, make sure that you can live with the choice that your child makes. For example, if we give our high school children control over how they do in school, we must be prepared to let them fail. If we take away their control as soon as we begin to see unwise choices, then they will cease to believe that we really gave them a choice at all and they will miss out on the natural consequences.
2. One failed attempt at providing choices will not make or break your child. Thankfully, God has made our children resilient and He will give us another chance to practice giving choices in the very near future.
3. We are not alone in this. Other parents are going through the same things. Commiserate with other parents and bounce your ideas off of them.
4. Have fun!!! It is easy to get the wrong idea about Jesus’ relationship with His disciples. I don’t think He was some worry wort parent who could never really enjoy the process of seeing His children struggle and grow. He had fun giving them choices and seeing the slow transformation take place.
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