Jesus was transparent and revealed His struggles to His children (disciples) so that they could understand how to deal with life’s difficulties.
When Jesus was going to pray in the Garden of Gethsemane, prior to His arrest and crucifixion, He said to the disciples, “My soul is crushed with grief to the point of death. Stay here and watch with Me”. (Matthew 26:38)
Jesus knew what was in store for Him including His taking the weight of the sin of the world and judgment on His shoulders. He did not just bear up under it and ‘act like a man’. No, He revealed His pain and heartache to the disciples and asked for their help. He knew they would be going through similar trials in the future and that they too could openly agonize and take their pain to their heavenly Father and to others.
Obviously, there are appropriate things to keep from our children, but too often they don’t see us as parents struggle in order to overcome. In this age of instant everything, our children need role models of going through pain, enlisting community support and waiting patiently for the Lord’s provision and timing.
Back in 1996 I was playing basketball and snapped my Achilles tendon. After surgery I was in a walking boot for 6 weeks. I can tell you that when I got out of bed and the blood rushed down to my ankle, I let out a yell in pain. During that 6 weeks my whole family and community supported my recovery. My children saw then and there that dad wasn’t some old tough guy, but flesh and blood who could hurt and needed others.
Let’s give this gift of transparency to our children like Jesus did.
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