Being quick to confess our sins is a mark of maturity. It shows that someone lives in freedom and not secrets and shame.
” If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1: 8-9
Teaching our kids that they can live in this awesome freedom because of our relationship with Jesus is one of the great privileges of being a Christian parent. Our kids can learn that they can come clean when they blow it. Here are some tips we have found that make this easier.
- Model it! When our kids or others confront us, stop and listen and if there is truth in what they are saying be quick to own it. Talk about how knowing Jesus and how he died for my sins makes it easier fo me to own my mistakes. Now your kids will see the connection to living under grace and just how wonderful it is to have a savior that died for all of the bad things we do.
- Make “straight talk” and clarifying stuff with your kids an everyday occurance. If this is the normal routine, asking kids not accusingly but in a ” Hey I need to clarify this with you,” way, can take the pressure off our kids from being so defensive. I love to say, “I am for you I just need to have you own the truth here.”
- When they do confess don’t over react. Ask them “why did you feel the need to…” “Help me to understand why you did …” Then thank them for their honesty. Tell them how Satan wants us all to live in secrets and shame but God wants us to live in the light and in freedom. That is why Jesus died. He wants us to own our sin but He is not condemning us. They will have to deal with the consequences but they can handle that as well as Jesus is also there for that process. There is freedom and joy in being quick to confess our sins. Helping your kids understand that freedom is an wonderful blessing.
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